The 25-Year-Old Virgin

Let me start with the fact that I am not super sexually experienced. I held off on losing my virginity until I was 25 and dated one guy for a very long time. So now I feel like it is time for me to experience what all of my friends experienced in their early 20s in my late 20s. (Safely of course). I almost wish I had just done it when I was 19 so these things were not such a big deal to me.

But, that did not happen.

So here I am 27 and I have only been with 1 (ok like 1.5 guys) – I decided to not count the 2nd totally because it was a friend and it was just like a drunken hook up. OK, fine … two then but it was to shake off the feelings I had for my ex and make him not the ONLY person I had ever been with. (OK enough justification of him, I promise). When my friends found out that had happened they were basically high fiving me and chest bumping me – they were so proud that I did it with someone else. Which is not usually the reaction friends have to one night stands, but they didn’t really like my ex.

So now it’s hard … what if I am somehow bad at sex?? Waiting until I was 25 was not a good idea because now I want to have it every single day. And now I am single… and I have the sex drive of a raging 12-year-old boy who just hit puberty.

Honestly I didn’t even care about sex until I was 25 – I was like what is the big deal? What is this Thing everyone is talking about and why do people thing it is such a good idea. Arent they scared about getting pregnant or getting herpes or AIDS or one of the million STDs out there? And then I did it. Since I am super OCD, my best friend told me that once I did it. I would probably want to. A lot. And she was right.

So now I am 27 – and newly single. I feel like I am too old to just go out to a bar and meet random men and bring them back to my house. That is what I scolded my girlfriends for when we were 19. Not that I was a TOTAL angel, I just never put out. And honestly I am not ready to get back into a relationship. Not after the one I just got out of, so what’s a girl to do?

I thought that the solution would be an F Buddy. I know that sounds gross but what else can I do. I would rather have sex with someone who was just having sex w me (and if he isn’t – not tell me about it just be safe) and who I like to hang out with. I don’t want any drama that comes with a relationship. Period.

But if it is someone I am just sleeping with and hanging out with …. What is the difference between that and a real boyfriend.

And let’s just say the pool of people my friends have come up with for me to date is not exactly one that I want to dive into. Sometimes I look at those men, and am like REALLY? So I have to go outside of my group to find someone.

So I am kind of in limbo at this point. But my 12-year-old boy libido does NOT like it.