Let me first put out there that the last straw with RG came not only with abuse, but with the discovery of many email and text correspondences that he was having with strange women he met on the Internet. Some of which had very questionable values. Don’t get me wrong, people can find love online – it’s 2010 and people are busy. But he was being highly inappropriate. And he had a girlfriend. Me.
I was always suspect of his overuse of the phone and saw a few things when we first started dating that were from girls he said he was seeing before – the occasional ‘hey sexy’ 2 AM texts or things along those lines. He always had an excuse and reason for where they were from. Then, last summer, I made a gruesome discovery. We got into a pretty heinous fight where more of my things were broken and I was pushed down and he threatened to call one of my best friends to tell her she was a horrible person (or something along those lines). He then got in the shower and I went to check his phone to make sure he had not dialed and she had heard our nasty fight … I was still trying to hide things at this point. This is when I found highly inappropriate texts to an unsaved number where he was texting about blow jobs and how he thought this woman should come to his work.
I confronted RG about this and he said he felt terrible – it was a woman he met years ago at the beach and they would sometimes dirty text… and oh yeah the other number on there he was texting was someone who used to try to date him. I didn’t even SEE that number at the time. So he agreed to change his phone number and I thought that he really must have felt bad and it was a one off. I was allowed to see his email and facebook and even found multiple other convos where he was trying to meet women while we had been dating but it was in the beginning and he swore it stopped.
Now I feel like an idiot. Odd things kept happening and I ignored it. Weird pics of himself sent to an unknown email. A few clandestine texts, he told me he could not chat at work but was ALWAYS online.
So we end up getting into it hardcore a few months ago and I go to check my email – on MY computer, mind you. And there it is. His email with all kinds of CL emails on it. I felt like a crazy person, but I forwarded myself all the evidence I would need. One even stated he cheated on me with an older lady on Valentine’s Day – a day he decided to be a HUGE dick to me. Another was an email about “roses” and how many it would take to get a blow job. Attached were pics of a woman who stated she was a 44 DD – and this mind you, was a LARGE lady. I later found out that “roses” were a secret term for dollars and this woman was a hooker. Good.
So, I decided to email some of these women and ask what their relationship was with RG. Mind you, this was not the first time I had seen suspect things and sent emails to strange women to see what they were doing with my boyfriend. I even emailed the hooker. It was a low point in my life. One girl came back and said that they had never met – all the girls I talked to had never met him – but he did send her pics of his genitals and she never knew he had a girlfriend. They would also have phone sex after work which was really nice. The strange thing is, it is not like he was not getting laid at home.
Everything came to a head when my girlfriends and I put on a charity event a back in March. A girl was in the audience and noticed large bruises on my arms. I had never met this girl. A mutual friend informed her I had a bad boyfriend who I had recently broken up with and it was probably from that. It was as I had been assaulted a few days prior for the last time. Somehow it came up this man played rugby my friend and her husband knew him. The girl admitted that she had been on a date with him and when their names came up (a long time ago ) – he said he had a girlfriend. (Me).
Of course he denied this, but the funny thing to me was – this woman was the polar opposite of me: A large black woman. The kicker was – he was a total racist! I am by no means against interracial dating but not when one party is the man who lives with me.
When I found this out, I made a retaliation CL post stating that since my boyfriend used this site to try to get laid, I could post too. And some CRAZY people responded. And let’s just say … they didn’t want to talk about the weather. I quickly closed that email account and have not discussed it since. But Really? What are these men hoping to get? And the emails that these women were responding to RG with were equally offensive and included pics as well. I don’t know about you, but if a strange man (who is not exactly packing) sends me genital pics, I am probably not going to talk to him anymore. Maybe he is right, maybe I am a judgmental prude? But if a prude doesn’t send naughty pics, I am quite okay with that.
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